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Dr. Don Coffey |
It has been 36 years since the Jubilee House Community was
formed and began working with the poor first in the U.S. and then later in
Nicaragua. When we started in both
places we didn't know squat and we have learned by trial and error and
listening. Some our most important
lessons came from a seminary professor many years ago…Dr. Don Coffey.
When I was in seminary lo those many years ago, Don called
me in for an appointment to talk about my part in forming a community to work with
the poor. Don said, “I am going to give
you two pieces of advice.” I was
stunned, because in our counseling courses Don always steered us away from the
temptation of giving advice but instead he insisted we should listen;
therefore, I listened all the more attentively.
Later Don served on our Board of Directors when we created
and operated shelters and to the two pieces of advice he added a third. We all
listened then and here are the three bits of advice:
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Photo by Eric Matheson Gruen |
The first piece of advice is “You can always kiss one foot but never kiss two.”
This sounds a bit silly but surprisingly it has been a
valuable measuring tool for us over the last 36 years when we try to find
funding for projects that benefit the poor and when to give in to outside
demands and when not to. “If we do
this, are we kissing one or two feet?” we have asked each other over and over
again, and if the answer is “two” then we don’t do it. This simple statement has steered us from many
potential disasters and has helped us retain the need for dignity and integrity
of the poor.
The next piece of advice came in the 80s. During a Board meeting we were discussing
whether to take money from Martin Marietta, a weapons production corporation, for
our shelter work and taking that
money felt an awful lot like kissing two feet to us, but Don’s reply was, “When you can take money from rich people and
give it to poor people, do it!"
Asking for money for this work is difficult for me. I really have to take a deep breath and
plunge into it like diving into cold water.
In one such recent situation, I was reminded of Don’s advice when I apologized to a wealthy friend
for asking for funding. The friend
quoted back to me what he had heard Mike say, “When you can take money from rich
people and give it to poor people, do it!”
Don gave us good advice on what to do and where to draw the
line…the last piece of advice is on how to stay sane.
In his office in 1979, Don said to me, “Remember God’s time is not your time.
God says “I am going to break that boulder and then He sends a drip,
drip, drip, drip…in time that boulder will break, but not in your time.”
Martin Luther King, Jr., said “The arc of the moral universe is long, but
it bends towards justice.” We as a
community believe that the boulder of injustice and poverty will break…not in our
lifetime…but it will break. As long as we keep
participating in bringing justice and ending poverty, we are moving towards justice, though it seldom feels that
way. We find that hope in the drip, drip, drip of kindness, love,
and justice.
Thank you, Don.
-Kathleen